Keys to Happiness

I think I can safely state that all human beings desire happiness. Who doesn’t want to be happy? Yet happiness eludes us. Why?

Aside from external factors (attitudes of others, environmental factors, etc.), there are four major factors that impact our level of happiness.

It would appear obvious that our health greatly affects our happiness. Yet not everyone behaves as if they are aware of this simple fact. Working toward improving our sense of well-being greatly affects our happiness. Lifestyle changes, such as exercising more, eating healthier, and maintaining good sleeping habits can go a long way toward improving how we feel – both physically and emotionally.

Interestingly, studies have shown that happiness affects our health. Having a positive outlook impacts healing time, immunity, and even longevity.

Can money buy happiness? It goes without saying that money is necessary – without it, we do not have access to food, shelter, clothing, or medical care. Going beyond basic needs, money may allow us to do and purchase things we want. Money allows us to travel. But just how much money is necessary to make us happy?

Material prosperity and possessions do not automatically assure us of happiness. While it is clearly evident that those with enough wealth to satisfy their basic needs are happier than those who have nothing, this does not imply that those with more wealth are even happier. When we strive for more once our basic needs are already met, it does not increase our level of happiness. In fact, it decreases our happiness, as dissatisfaction with our current situation grows. Statistics show that at a certain point, the level of happiness plateaus for those who are very wealthy, even in the face of increasing assets. Having the means to satisfy every whim does not bring lasting happiness. Acquiring all the possessions we desire may bring happiness initially, but after the novelty has worn off, it is human nature to seek a new thrill. It is a cycle without end. Perhaps this is the reason why some poorer countries are happier than countries where every desire may seemingly be fulfilled, given enough money.

Relationships and Goals
Some link their happiness to a future achievement or circumstance, limiting the current happiness they can experience:

“I’ll be happy when I can buy a house.”
“I’ll be happy when I get married.”
“I’ll be happy when I have a baby.”
“I’ll be happy when I get my degree.”
“I’ll be happy when I get that promotion.”

While each of these circumstances have the potential to bring us happiness, is it really wise to put our lives and happiness on hold until we achieve the desired circumstance? How do we know for certain that we will be happy upon achievement of the goal? Could it be that upon bringing our plans to fruition we find it rather anticlimactic? Now what? Perhaps another goal, that will surely bring happiness in its accomplishment.

This is not to say that joy cannot be found in achievements and healthy relationships. Wisely chosen, a life-enriching goal can bring great happiness. Similarly, a strong, healthy marriage and family life is a source of happiness and security. Often, if we have chosen wisely, these things continue to bring us happiness for a lifetime. At times, however, we are not satisfied with what we have – not because it is defective or disappointing, but because we are still in “pursuit” mode.

Our Own Choices and Mindset

“Now and then it’s good to pause in our pursuit of happiness and just be happy.” – Guillaume Apollinaire

The first time I read the above quote, I had a revelation. I had never thought of happiness that way before. Like many, I was in hot pursuit of something that I’d never catch as long as I kept chasing it. But pausing, taking a look within, and examining what I found there taught me one of the most valuable lessons I’ve ever learned: the key to happiness lies within each one of us. It cannot be bought or earned. It comes from gratitude, self-control and self-respect.


When you really think about it, happiness is a choice. We don’t find happiness, we choose happiness. But it’s not an easy choice. It takes strength and self-control to stop feeling sorry for ourselves, to stop thinking negatively of others and ourselves, to be determined to find something positive in the most difficult of situations. It takes self-respect to stand up for what we deserve and make our own happiness. It takes gratitude to appreciate the things we have to be happy about.

“The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance; the wise grows it under his feet.” – James Openheim

Once we choose to be happy, we may find that some of our more elusive goals are now in reach. We find that our relationships thrive. Stresses that seemed insurmountable are now small annoyances, easily overcome. We find compassion in our hearts for others. The sun shines brighter and birdsong sounds sweeter… I think you get my point.

If we work hard at it, we can achieve a state that surpasses happiness itself – contentment, a peaceful happy calm that keeps us ever grateful for what we have and sanguine about what we do not, satisfied with the joys we can derive from simple, everyday pleasures.


Nature is a tremendous help in choosing the path of happiness. Take a walk on a spring morning. It’s difficult to stay in a foul mood when the sun is shining, birds are singing and we are breathing fresh air. Studies have shown that natural views (the real thing, not photos or television programs) have a marked calming effect on those suffering from stress and anxiety. Spending time in nature helps to replenish our thought processing systems, which are often over-taxed by our fast-paced modern lifestyles. Take a brisk walk in a natural setting and you combine the benefits of exercise with the soothing effects of nature. Add a friendly companion and you have a stress-busting triple threat.

As to companions, if you want a companion that can provide you with an excellent example of how to be happy, as well as help in lowering your stress levels, there is none better than a dog.


As Charles Schulz aptly expressed in the above sentiment, dogs have an exceptional ability to increase our feelings of happiness and well-being. Often, by their presence alone, dogs can assist us in lowering our stress levels. Taking a soothing nature walk with a canine companion can work wonders for the psyche.

“There is no psychiatrist in the world like a puppy licking your face.” – Bern Williams

Despite our past, learned behaviors, or our natural disposition, we can choose happiness. If we make the conscious choice to be happy – regardless of what life may throw at us – and choose to surround ourselves with things and people that will boost our happiness, we may find that happiness is not as elusive as it seems.

One thought on “Keys to Happiness

  1. eloquentlyury says:

    What a beautiful blog! It made me HAPPY! It reminds me of a favorite quote of mine. “Enjoy the little things in life for one day you’ll look back and realize they are the big things.” I remembered that quote one day my husband and I were out for a drive in the country. I realized how much I enjoyed doing that “little thing”. Also, when my daughter and I go for walks in the park. Happiness isn’t measured in time but in moments and the happiest people don’t have the best of everything, they just make the best of everything. Another favorite quote is “Happiness is not the absense of problems; but the ability to deal with them.” I agree that pets can make us happy. Studies show that people who have regular interaction with pets are happier. My motto is “look on the bright side.” No one ever got blind by looking on the bright side! Sorry, can you tell I make signs? Yes, I create, just like if you want to be happy, you can create it yourself! Whoo, I’m on a roll. Good work! I love the blog!!

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